A few weeks ago, I attended a conference called Educator Summit in Philadelphia. I’m not much of a conference attendee and didn’t know exactly what to expect.
I stood in the back of a dimly lit ballroom, waiting for an address from a man named Howard Fuller, a name that rang familiar, but of whom I had little real knowledge.
From the moment Dr. Fuller took the stage, I was transfixed by his words, his passion and his fearlessness to speak truth to power. At the end of his talk, I plucked up the courage to approach him and ask him a question that’s been on my mind for a good long while: What should White, anti-racist co-conspirators say to other White people?
He told me that White people need the humility to understand that helping is not the same as controlling. Not only should we not assume the lead, we must also possess and exercise the humility to be told what to do, what is best, what is right—and what is wrong.
We need to help support communities gain the power to control their own destiny, not “help” them by assuming that control for ourselves.
And we need to be honest.
If who we truly are does not allow us to teach, support, care, love and fight for Black and Brown kids, then we need to go do something else.
These were not easy things for me to hear. I was triggered, defensive and unsure. Which was precisely the reaction that demonstrated how comfortable I had been telling others what to do and how to be, but how little experience I, as a White man, had being on the opposite side of the conversation.
And I don’t think I’m alone.
I’m thinking of well-meaning school networks that educate student bodies that are nearly 100% Black or Brown, and are also run by boards and funders who are nearly all White, and who can make a whole lot of money doing so.
I’m thinking of cohorts of young White teachers entering classrooms with dreams of saving young Black and Brown children, who then advocate for those same students being suspended or removed for rough-housing, talking back and being disrespectful with nary a twinge of irony.
I’m thinking of myself as a young English teacher passing judgment on rap songs I felt were inappropriate, passing judgment on families based upon how they dressed and spoke and passing judgment on books I thought weren’t worthy enough to be taught or included in the canon.
Who the hell did I think I was?
Looking Inward As Agents of Social Change
So often, we White people look outward when we want to be agents of social change. We look outward when we want to be anti-racist co-conspirators. We look outward when we want to be so-called progressives at the forefront of social justice.
We are so quick to laud the virtues of grit, self-control and growth mindsets; to tell families in Black and Brown communities that their children need grit, that their children need self-control, that their children need growth mindsets.
But what about ourselves? What about our children?
Do we really value kindness if it is more important for my child to get a 5 on her AP test than it is to be decent?
Do we really value growth mindsets when we just assume some kids can’t read, or can’t do math or that some families don’t care?
Do we really have the gall to tell Black and Brown communities that their kids need grit when their children likely have more grit in one fingernail than we may have in our entire bodies?
Again, this is not easy to hear. I’m struggling even as I’m writing this.
But the struggle tells me that this is truth.
Serving Communities of Color with Love and Respect
After all, if our passion as White anti-racist co-conspirators isn’t rooted in humility, love and respect for communities of color; if we don’t love the kids when they’re hard to love, if we only see the cultures and communities of urban students as impediments to replace rather than assets to encourage, then our classrooms and school hallways are likely to resemble areas of continued persecution, not empowering scenes of liberation.
There is a difference between serving a community and controlling a community; between empowering a community to help them control their own destiny, and dictating that destiny.
Those of us, myself included, who choose to serve these communities need to understand these truths if we want to ensure that our schools and classrooms are places of liberation, not oppression.
I didn’t start my career with these beliefs. It’s been a long road of learning—one that will never end.
Zachary Wright is an assistant professor of practice at Relay Graduate School of Education, serving Philadelphia and Camden, and a communications activist at Education Post. Prior, he was the twelfth-grade world literature and Advanced Placement literature teacher at Mastery Charter School's Shoemaker Campus, where he taught students for eight years—including the school's first eight graduating ...